So, I just happened to read something that sounds kind of familiar to what you described and it reminded me of reading your post a while ago (I remember thinking it sounded like a scene I'd love to read)....
Could it be Atonement by Katrina? There is a scene in Chapter 10 (I think) where Buffy sets up a crypt all romantic with candles hoping to seduce Spike, it gets interrupted and later Buffy tries to get Spike to go back to the crypt with her saying she lost an earring....Haven't read past that chapter yet, but that scene sounds like what you were thinking of.
I'm pretty sure you can find it here on SR...Hope this helps.
