I tried to match accepting his love more readily/easily but not necessarily running to him (except in Broken Betrayal).

I think this is the basis here...
Origins series by Niamh
Post The Gift; Life surviving without Buffy and the consequences of her return. . .Awakenings by dreamweaver
What if Buffy came back angry instead of incapable of feelings when she was resurrected?The Consequences of Reanimation by Demonica Mills
Every action has an equal and opposite reaction. What are the consequences for bringing someone back from the dead? Another Way by Jackie Abbott
A short time after Buffy comes back, she decides to tell Spike the truth. After they're together, everything goes great but it's all ruined when she's taken... A Love Like Ours by Holly
Buffy is broken, and Spike is determined to again make her whole by giving her what she needs most: an ear to bend, a shoulder to cry on, and, most importantly, someone who understands.The Ghost in You by BuffyMeetsSpike
Goes AU during Bargaining. Willow's spell goes awry, leaving Buffy incorporeal, and visible only to Spike. With the Scoobies convinced that Spike has lost it, how can he help Buffy get back where she belongs?It has been a veeeery long time since I read it but I think that the second part of this series (when Buffy returns) has her very accepting of Spike. The third part is unfinished/draft but the first two stories are complete.
Journeys series by Mary
Post-The Gift/Alternate season 6. Spike's journey after Buffy's death. This is the first part in the series. Second part of the Journeys series. Continues Spike's journey as Buffy is resurrected and has to adjust to life. Willow's growing power-hungry and is a potential a threat to everyone.She returns by a different method here but kinda fits...
And Miles To Go by cousinjean
My contribution to the glut of resurrection fics. Spike plays Orpheus to Buffy's Euridyce. Crossover with AtS.This is a little sidestep because she is traumatised at first but does turn to him...
Fallen Angels by BuffyMeetsSpike
Goes off-canon during Bargaining. When Willow's spell pulls Buffy out of heaven, it leaves her insane, terrified, and unable to communicate. The Scoobies are convinced she came back wrong. Spike is convinced that he can reach her. And Buffy's misconceptions about this hell she has awakened to lead to a host of problems and heartache. Who will be the one who can guide this fallen angel back to life? Again a sidestep really because it isn't purely from The Gift as was onwards...
Broken Betrayal by maryperk
Buffy's back from the dead and the secret she learned is a doozy. Spike always said magic has consequences.