I'm looking for post-NFA fics in which Angel and Buffy are together (happy or not) and Spike has a presence in the fic as either Buffy's friend/enemy/secret lover at first (and later Buffy chooses Spike over Angel).

Is it too much to ask for fics like that without Angel-bashing?

There is some Angel bashing in this one, but it's the first that came to mind.

The Wind Beneath My Wings by Slaymesoftly

Summary: Buffy thinks Spike is dust and has, reluctantly, agreed to marry a shanshued Angel. So, why, the closer the wedding gets, does it seem like a worse and worse idea? And who asked the band to play Wind Beneath my Wings?

Prophecy and Warmth by the Bear. Absolute best and limits on the Angel bashing (mainly because he really doesn't feature much).

All time favorite, Tell Her This by Eowyn315. Not so much with Angel but it's afterwards and makes me teary....and Angel is gorgeous

.....and a WIP. Time's Fool by Ms Jane. She was with Angel a while back

I love Angel - the bashing irritates me sometimes.