Hello everybody!

i'm looking for a long, spuffy fic that I think has been written at least a couple of years ago.
Spike and Buffy love each other and live together. I seem to remember they also have a daughter and -if I'm not mistaking - they married when the girl was like 3 or something, towards the end of the fic.
it was very long and probably with lots of plot/fights: maybe started canon and then veered out of it after a bit...
if i'm not confusing fics, they started living together without actually being together, but the most definite particular I recall is that, even being happy and in love for years, Buffy never told him 'i love you' since she was scared of the three little words...at the end she did obviously, even if he always knew

any idea?
thank you!

erika