It sounds a bit like one I'm trying to find.
Buffy goes to Spikes crypt to find out if he told Glory about Dawn and they end up mated somehow.
Buffy has a panic attack because she thinks Spikes chip has stopped working and ends up kinda catatonic.
Spike takes her to Giles' house and tells him all about the first slayer.
She was some kind of vamp that didn't believe in killing humans and fought against those who did, Spikes demon was one of her followers while angelus' demon was one of the baddies.
Does this sound like what you're looking for? if not...sorry for hijacking your thread

If it is the one the only other things I can remember is its definitely compleat and I'm pretty sure that I read it on this site.